- What two words sum up your experience of the CBLC?
Insightful / Thought provoking
2. What, if anything, was the most important thing you learned and why
I learned how to tune in to my feelings, physical reactions and emotions and then responding to these with a greater sense of acceptance and kindness. Looking at the bigger picture is helping me to shift out of my habitual thought patterns. I have enjoyed exploring the CBL techniques and this has given me a sense of the many opportunities that lie ahead.
How to address and react to my self-critic – I feel like this is something I used to struggle with on a daily basis – becoming involved with my own criticism and creating negativity towards myself. I know have the tools to combat this!
I have learned to observe and respond with kindness and curiosity when my mind will not settle and be grounded, and when I struggle to focus on what is happening in the body. I learned that there is so much more to learn about compassion based practice. I believe it will be a lifetime journey.
The arrows – I loved the three arrows. The first arrow is the unavoidable pain of life – we get sick, experience pain, loved ones die and we feel grief, and so on. The second arrow is the resistance and avoidance to the pain of the first arrow. The third arrow is the belief that because we have been struck by two arrows something is wrong with us; we feel like we are a flawed human being (Tara Brach the ‘trance of unworthiness’). It is argued that the first arrow is an inevitable part of human life, but the other two arrows are self inflicted. Therefore with training we can stop inflicting more suffering on our wounds by turning towards these difficulties with acceptance, kindness and equanimity.
That it’s ok not to get on with everyone but you can still wish then happiness/love in their life.
I learned to be kinder and more forgiving to myself in order that I can be compassionate to others.
3. Has the course impact on your engagement with colleagues, family and friends? Please explain.
I am noticing my physical and emotional reactions more and responding to these in more positive ways. I am feeling more connected and responsive to others’ reactions & emotions.
I use the CBLC at work, with family and friends – and on myself. It has helped me explain inner critic to a young person who struggles with anxiety and also to my friend.
This course has allowed me to look at myself and others differently. It has helped me develop my compassion for others. I have used it at work to help myself not to get wrapped up in the negative parts of relationships.
Frequently, I am placed in stressful situations at work where I am open to making mistakes. I now feel more confident challenging self-criticism, and instead bringing compassion to my difficulty.
I am aware of my self-critic that often nags at me and I sometimes remember to have a self-compassion break, to take in the good and to tap into my compassionate self repeating words of kindness to myself. I sometimes feel critical of or negative towards some people and now I offer them (silent) words of kindness.
I have developed more patience and understanding when interacting with family and friends. I think more about how life must be for them and what they may be suffering or have suffered in the past. I am less judgemental and more reflective.
4. Would you recommend this course to others
I would highly recommend this course to other people